Preface: This blog has gone through quite a few cycles of birth and rebirth. its purpose changed time and time again. From frustrated attempt at dealing with the challenges of love in my early twenties, to venting the heartache of that love coming to a end, to a sandbox for me to explore myself as a writer. In that time i've had a few readers who read my writing for whatever reasons. And although a review of a sci-fi show seems an odd choice for this final post in some ways it makes sense. This show was once something i shared with the girl i loved in 2004 when i started this blog and in coming to an end it is in some small way the very last "shared" thing to end from that time in my life. A very odd parallel that didn't occur to me until i actually started writing this. In a way i hope she someday gets a chance to see this final episode of the show we started watching together.
Now my thoughts on the show and the finale.
I'm not sure what i can add to what's been written and being written about BattleStar Galactica as a whole, and The series finale. It comes at a time of profound change for television and most other mediums. Newspapers are shutting down, CD's are woefully obsolete and TV shows that depend on things like Nielsen ratings or ad dollares are eeking by on business model that's slowly going obselete. Everyone is scrambling to find solutions. Meanwhile i do what i always do. Consume, Read, Watch, Listen to the things that move me, affect me, make me laugh, cry, or think in whichever way is quickest and most convenient. So i've downloaded every episode for the past year of BSG and the second they hit blu-ray i'll but the whole box set of them.
But i'm writing now not because i feel the need to drone on about new media vs. old media but because i know in my heart that the talent behind a show like BSG must and should be allowed to do what they do best. This show isn't merely entertaining but a beautiful representation of that uniquely human urge to create art. The word is loaded with cliche but art is the most wonderful abstract manifestation of humanities greatest trait. So although i still cringe at the idea of something so transient as a television show being called art, BSG is nothing less than a symphony. It has taken me through a 5 year journey and in bringing me to a finish line i find myself thinking about god, spirituality, and the tiny choices that make us who we are.
I imagine someone listening to Beethoven's Ninth for the first time must have had a similar experience.
a few things i know.
I know that there is some sort of redemption to be had for love from loving again.
I know that when you're eating ice cream and you get a brain freeze it sucks, but i also know that as soon as the brain freeze has subsided the first thing you do is eat more ice cream.
Love and broken hearts are pretty much the same thing.
Gonna try a little something.
just for me.
once upon a happily ever after i was enamored and playful with words.
No i'm in love and have seemed quite content to just be.
But damn it if i don't miss it. Stringing words.
It meant something to me. readership be damned.
on a side note Ray Lamontagne's voice could make my mental vagina wet.
It's just so damn....weathered. You believe it, instantly.
Sometime you need a little bit of that.
Hearing something with conviction. It helps.
The worlds in chaos, the pendulums swung right back and off its damn axis.
So anything that seems to say. "I know what i'm writing about." helps.
so here's the thing, you start writing, it's almost like jerking off, you blog, you bitch, you do this whole auto-disecting thing and for a while it works. It helps and the more it helps the less you write until eventually you start wondering why you write your little blog, and who reads it, if anyone?
and so months have past and i've writen tech stuff @ stitchrobot.com and design stuff at macthemes.net
and very little of my life has found itself into this blog, and maybe that's okay.
p.s. Sarah Palin freaks me out.
i just watched the debate.
she has the exact same smile in every single picture. I hate smiles that feel rehearsed.
I've a new mistress and her name is stitchrobot.com
After two years of writing my random musings in this little sandbox of mine i realized that with close to nil readers i was really just writing for myself, despite efforts to bring others into the fold.
The truth is most people just don't give a shit about the well written bitching about a blokes inner struggle to figure himself out.
I know because i don't read too many blogs about other blokes well written bitching about finding themselves.
Enter : stitchrobot.com a blog for me to geek out, to tech cool hunt, to aggregate the plethora of wonderful that i find on the internets. A place to spout mac tutelage and the sort.
Something a bit more...accesible for people to read written by me.
This blog will continue in its current incarnation as a place where i play with words, spout, rage, smile, etc.
no format, no purpose other than to serve as a spill over for the stuff in my head.
and now the musical interlude.
the more time passes, the more she becomes a stranger i once loved.
given enough time i imagine it will feel like remembering a dream.
a dream of being in love one with a tall albanian girl who liked being held.
I only just found out, she passed away in dec. We both moved back to Mexico from nyc at about the same time, late 2006, and the last i saw her was after i came back from spain in April of 2007, after that we lost touch, but she was always in the back of my mind, wondering when we'd cross paths, Today i finally sent her an email, but it was bounced back, so i looked her up on facebook, and saw an facebook group in her memory. Death has never ever felt so real as it does right now. I've known people that have passed before, casual friends, extended family, parents of friends, etc, but i was always somewhat insulated from the full impact by a slight degree of seperation. Cosette...well...it was an almost was that became a friendship over the course of 2006. I'd been missing her for months now, thinking, looking forward to finally calling her up and catching up, I miss her all the more terribly knowing that i will never be able to.
I'd never really given too much thought to death, to what happens next, all i know is that if in some shape or form we carry on, there is now one person i look forward to coming across,
"Your whole life, people are gonna ask you to be weak. They're gonna practically beg you. But all anyone really wants is for you to be strong." - The Hottest State
two years ago i met a woman who, in breaking my heart, would teach me that lesson.
When i was with her, i allowed myself to be vulnerable, to strip down to my trembling broken self.
I saw everyone of her fears when i looked into her eyes. I could see the beautiful girl who wanted to be brilliant and was terrified of being shallow. I saw to the very core of her and because of it i thought i loved her and because of it i let her see just how broken i was then and there.
But people don't want weakness, they want strength, quiet strength, subtle and open perhaps, but strength.
That subtle balance between openness and fortitude.
Things ended with her, as these things tend to do, and not long ago she suggested we meet for coffee. I confess that whilst appealing, seeing her would also be like walking into that room of people that saw you show up naked to school in your dream.
Mario Fucking Paint.
man did i love this "game"
SNES and a mouse, pure joy
and you can totally download a recreation and play with it on your computer http://www.unfungames.com/mariopaint/ fucking yea! there goes sleep
Father's Day.
My Dad has 6 children and 1 "illegitimate" child that he just found out about and is trying to build a relationship with. Of his children all of us at some point or another have been through therapy for co-dependancy and addictions of one sort or another and two have been through rehabs for eating disorders.
To say that the sins of the father reflect on the child is putting it mildly. We all grew up with, at various times, an incredibly absent father who was exceedingly generous financially, an interesting duality that for many years kept us from realizing just how absent he really was from our lives.
My youngest brother is the one who is really testing my father. He is 20. Never finished high-school and is gripped with such intense anxiety that he smokes pot every night just to try and go to sleep. When things started to unravel with my brother about three years ago my father decided that the best approach was to just let things reach a natural boiling point. To let things achieve a state of crisis. In hindsight he's admitted that was a mistake, but i also think he believed that he would be in a position to throw money at the problem and solve it when it finally boiled over. I don't think he ever realized that his financial situation could take a turn for the worse and that as a result he would find himself feeling far more impotent to combat the problems that finally have boiled over.
It's sad, deeply saddening to watch my brother so deeply dug into a trench of his own behavioral patterns and coping mechanisms. But what's worse is to realize that had my parents made different choices, and in this regard because my mother is bi-polar more of the blame falls on my father as the only physiologically stable parent, my brother david might not be in the state he is right now.
So on this fathers days my dad sits alone in a hotel room in Houston, overwhelmed by the weight of his responsibility to his youngest boy. Who at 20 years old is still just a boy, who's lost, and full of resentment towards a father that let him get lost, because at the time he thought thats what was best.
2 years just go by, they didn't even ask permission.
fuckers.
someday soon i'll write about my first love. At the very least for everyone who's read the rants and meanderings that came about because of it ending, I'll write the beginning. Those first three days in Dec of 2000. It feels like time to do it.
circa 1993-94
I got chicken pox and my perpetually traveling father came "home" to see me, although to be fair by this time i think my parents where almost divorced.
I was going to spend all week in bed, trying and failing, not to scratch myself silly.
My dad having just returned from a trip abroad handed me a brand new powerbook 150.
He said here. this is for you to keep you busy. So really this mac thing is all his fault.
I'm a geek cause of him.
might as well, write something.
shit if i do then i can pretend some part of the last hour of useless and slightly self destructive reminiscing was in some way constructive
add 1 part: thinking about ex, seeing her myspace, and wondering what the fuck if anything is left, yet again, reused thought, recycled, shat it out and ate it once again, and it still taste like shite.
add 2 parts: my ex-gfs sister is staying in my flat and has been for a week. She's lovely, and not at all like her sister, which is to say i feel i can relate to her. but goddamn if it isn't a challenge not to thing about the ex, the lack of contact, friendship, failed attempts at friendship, and wonder yet again if it isn't a shame that after 5 years all thats left is a little bit more than nothing and a friendship with her sister.
add 1 cup of: after 7 days, the diplomatically vague topic of P. the ex, came up with the sister in conversation. bits and pieces really, of who she is, seen through the eyes of a younger sister that doesn't always relate to her, nothing really of much use. the sort of half conjectured observations that serve only to highlight how estranged the once loved can become.
blunt: i hate that i give a shit. But now in the presence of a, house guest, reminder it saddens me that there isn't anything between us, it scares me to think that having loved so intensely and so blindly it or rather i left so little room for anything else, But hey man a bad break up is a bad break up, you get over it but it doesn't quite motivate you to invite the person for tea, or send an email every few months to catch up. There's always that lack of trust.
More than anything, i wish one of us had had the balls to end it sooner, before it got ugly, before the cheating, before the blog reading, before my faux attempt at post break up friendship because i thought she needed me, before she confided in me that she had a [removed at the her request as a courtesy], her process, finding herself through her darker side, i wish i'd known to walk away, COLD, because i think maybe today i'd have that occasional email to say hello, and it would be ok, as she seems to be okay now, except i wouldn't have born witness to her destroying the person i loved before discovering who she was.
maybe thats why i can't reach out or send the email i've been writing to her in my head all week.
maybe it all boils down to i haven't figured out how to forgive her for tearing to bits the version of her that i loved so utterly.
We had these very silly and very personal nicknames for each other, i was peep and she was peo, and really it was just the personas for two lifetimes of unexpressed childhood playfulness and wonder that we discovered we could indulge in with each other, One day, of the many shared with her, i playfully "threatened" to do something, lick her eye i think, and she squirmed and said "no, don't do that, it's the instant death of peo spot" i laughed at the thought, thinking that the playful childish side of her was in some naive way eternal, in the same way i though we were.
For months, and months during the course of the first year after we split, i kept thinking, "instant death of peo." over and over again, Aware of how ridiculous it sounded but also of how precisely it expressed my utter disgust and heartbreak. could it be that even now, somehow i haven't forgiven her for the "not so instant death of peo" and with it peep, some bit of my ability to love naively.
I'm not sure how to end this post. there's still somethings i can't quite bring myself to write.
I've noticed a trend. the end of the month/ beginning of a new month are slow blogging times. something in my internal clock takes a moment to realize that we have in fact carried on into the next month.
It's almost as if i'm a sailor trying to sail to the edge of the world only to realize its round.
I still think the end of a month should include a small pause, a day or two to say phew that month went by quickly.
that's it for now. but at least the May index of my blog archive has something in it now.
i've this wonderful wonderful book. But i won't divulge the name of it, not yet. and it's filled with the ability to mix and match animal parts to create new ones. I've decided i will from now on occasionally share some of these carefully concocted concoctions.
accordingly todays animal is:
a capricious specimen with a sturdy caparison hailing from the malaysian forests.
Bueller? Bueller?
ok so despite the fancy hit tracker that shows up to the right of this post i really don't have any clue who, what, where, why, people read this blog.
so in an effort really do fill the time on a lazy sunday i've decided to do roll call,
except i have no idea what your names are (with one or two exceptions)
so everyone or no one.
please comment with at the very least, if not a name, a city, it'd been fun to see where people are stumbling onto this blog from.
